My niece is getting married in September, in Portland, Maine, on a ferry. I’m not sure what the etiquette is for a wedding gift for a second marriage when you’ve already spent almost a grand to get to the venue, between the airfare, the accommodations, and the rental car. I ordered her these
http://ift.tt/2bssX5G
which I also have and love, but I don’t know if I should get them something more. Her first wedding was on Fire Island, also on a beach. This one looks like it has a better chance of success, though!
I am only going because she came down here, from Maine, when my DH was terminal, and although she didn't arrive until after he died she pitched in and took over cooking and in general was a huge help. But prior to that she had cut off contact with us for seven years because she took umbrage over an email i sent to her mother and copied her on, which included a photo of my new puppy. Her father had just died, and I had spent a lot of time on the phone with my sister in support even though they were divorced and he had been horrible to them. Niece had complained bitterly about him for years and it never occurred to me to send her a formal sympathy note. So she broke off communications, after DH had been especially wonderful to her and we had hosted her and her friends down here for years, and even given her a plot in our own garden. DH was a father figure to her, replacing her own dad. And then she never even broke the silence after he was diagnosed with cancer, about which he was very bitter. He would not have allowed her to come down after that, but my kids and I felt it was time to try to heal the breach so we didn't try to stop her.
Lots of history! But that's the background.
http://ift.tt/2bssX5G
which I also have and love, but I don’t know if I should get them something more. Her first wedding was on Fire Island, also on a beach. This one looks like it has a better chance of success, though!
I am only going because she came down here, from Maine, when my DH was terminal, and although she didn't arrive until after he died she pitched in and took over cooking and in general was a huge help. But prior to that she had cut off contact with us for seven years because she took umbrage over an email i sent to her mother and copied her on, which included a photo of my new puppy. Her father had just died, and I had spent a lot of time on the phone with my sister in support even though they were divorced and he had been horrible to them. Niece had complained bitterly about him for years and it never occurred to me to send her a formal sympathy note. So she broke off communications, after DH had been especially wonderful to her and we had hosted her and her friends down here for years, and even given her a plot in our own garden. DH was a father figure to her, replacing her own dad. And then she never even broke the silence after he was diagnosed with cancer, about which he was very bitter. He would not have allowed her to come down after that, but my kids and I felt it was time to try to heal the breach so we didn't try to stop her.
Lots of history! But that's the background.
Wedding Gifts - Redux
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